Soul Mate Love

Soul Mates.  Two powerful words that conjure images of an ideal, everlasting love replete with romance and effortless connection. We grow up on songs, fairy tales and other myths depicting the soul mate love as the perfect setting to fulfill our needs and desires.  This type of relationship becomes a transaction designed to give the partner what they believe themselves to be missing.But these mythologies perpetuate suffering by idealizing the perception that we are not whole and that our happiness depends on external fulfillment from one perfect mate. 

What then, does the concept "soul mate" truly reflect?  

According to divine spirit, a soul mate can be your friend, lover, child, spouse, teacher, doctor.  Yep – anyone! Romance is not implicit within the concept.  A soul mate means that you and another soul are related by a vibrational code emanating from a soul group.  Translation: you are soul family. All souls are created by Source (G-d, the Creator, Divinity…)within a massive cluster which then separates like cells into individual souls.  A soul group is a cluster of souls created at the same time with whom you share an energetic imprint.  You will feel an ease or familiarity with soul mates.   

But soul mate relationships are not more sacred than any other.  All relationships are opportunities for soul evolution, expression and realization.  These connections allow us to discover our deepest truths, capacities for love, connection, forgiveness, passion and creativity.  When you approach all relationships as a sacred encounter, you will discover the grandest places within yourself and all of your self-imposed limits to intimacy and thriving. 

Soul mate connections and all relationships can be romanticized.  

But romantic love, although exciting and potentially passionate is not the quantifying expression of soul mate love.  A soul mate connection’s ultimate mission is to reveal and uphold the immaculate concept of the self and therefore all life.  Not from the ego-state (aka ideal perfect person) rather from the soul (aka pure divine essence). When one enters into the sacred connection from this perspective, one is not seeking to get his/her needs fulfilled.   Rather, she is seeking to bring through the highest expression of self and the other at every turn. This allows each partner to step into his/her innate exquisiteness in every possible way.  This type of  relationship allows for both individuals to grow personally and spiritually.  

Immaculate concept:  the intentional visualization of the divine essence or sacred blueprint of a person, idea, circumstance that allows its highest potential to be realized. By holding this highest truth with consistent intent, the individual will experience alchemy at the soul level, translated as healing and freedom 

When we view relationships from a transaction model or the “are you able to meet my needs” belief system, we ultimately perceive our partners as bringing us the missing parts to fulfill our destiny or we perceive him/her as blocking us from our healing, development and truth.  The partner is then seen as an ally or antagonist to our process.  When we step into the sacred potential that relationships truly hold, we bring our divine essence to the party without focusing on what we are getting or missing: we show up as a whole being nurturing and discovering exquisite evolution of self, other and creation. 

Soul mate love exists.  It is real.  But it is not the thing of love songs, fairy tales and epic films.  It exists as a sacred opportunity for spiritual evolution and soulful expression nurtured through the willingness to show up, one day at a time, with full compassionate presence. 

Spiritual evolution…soulful expression…compassionate presence…...perhaps there’s a country song in there somewhere.